Jordan Kilpatrick
Clinical Director · RP CBTHelps men understand what's driving their reactions so they can feel clearer, steadier, and more in control.
Read his story
Registered CBT therapists for men in Ontario
Find the right CBT therapist.
Structured online CBT with The Brotherhood team. For men across Ontario. No referral needed.
- Stop reacting in ways you regret
- Turn off the 3 AM thought loops
- Catch it before it goes sideways
- Free 30-min consult
- $185/hr
- Online across Ontario
We usually expect 6-12 sessions, depending on what you’re working on.
Book a free CBT consult
Registered Ontario therapists. No waitlist.
Start this week. Receipts provided for insurance.
You can know why it happened and still do it again.
CBT helps you catch the moment earlier, while there is still room to choose.
This often looks like:
Where you are now
Where you want to be
Your mind won’t shut off, replaying conversations at 3am.
Quiet the loop and actually sleep.
You snap at the people you love, then sit with the regret.
Pause before you say the thing you regret.
You replay it later, and know exactly where it went sideways.
Catch it earlier and respond differently.
The Brotherhood Approach
Insight alone doesn't
change behaviour.
You can see it after the fact and still miss it in the moment.
CBT gives you something practical to do before the next 3 AM replay, blow-up, or shutdown.
What structured CBT looks like here:
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Find the problem
Pinpoint the moment things go sideways: what happened, what you told yourself, and what you did next.
Free 30-minute consult to see if CBT is the right fit. If it is, start this week.
Book a free consult See if CBT is the right fit
The team
Meet Our All-Men Team
You will not be matched at random.
If we can help, we match you with a registered therapist whose experience and approach fit what you want to change.
Aaron Lorenz
RSW · BSW CBTHelps men who've built their lives around surviving - and are ready to start actually living.
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Andrew Garnet
RSW · MSW CBTHelps men understand what's underneath their anger so they can stop the patterns that keep damaging their relationships.
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Mo Shabib
RP (Qualifying) · RCC · CCC CBTHelps men process what they've been carrying so it stops showing up in their relationships and daily life.
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Sumeer Taneja
RP (Qualifying) · MACP CBTHelps high-functioning men close the gap between a life that looks right and one that actually feels right.
Read his storyMost people notice results in the first 1-2 sessions.
Every session ends with practical homework. Next session, you review what worked and adjust the plan.
Meet Joe, your intake coordinator.
Joe runs your free 30-minute consult. He sees if we are the right fit. If we can help, he matches you with a registered therapist whose experience fits what you want to change.
Book your free consult$185/hr
Receipts provided
for insurance
No waitlist
Start
this week
Free consult
30 minutes to
see if it fits
Get the right therapist, not a random match.
Start with a free 30-minute fit consult with Joe. If we can help, he will match you with the right therapist.
FAQs
What you probably want to know
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Sessions are $185/hour. Eligibility depends on your plan and on the therapist's registration. Check under "psychotherapy" or "social work" in your benefits booklet, or call your provider directly.
We provide receipts for insurance. We can offer direct billing for some social work coverage, but it depends on your plan and can only be confirmed once we try it. If it is not available, you pay for the session and submit the receipt to your insurer for reimbursement. - All sessions are online across Ontario.
- CBT is a form of talk therapy with more structure: you define a target, use tools such as thought records and behavioural experiments, and test the work between sessions. The point is not only to understand the pattern. It is to catch it sooner and change what you do next.
- Yes. If we’re the right fit, we’ll match you with a registered clinician whose approach includes CBT and fits what you’re working through.
- Your free 30-minute consult starts with Joe, our intake coordinator. He listens to what you want help with and checks whether The Brotherhood is the right fit. If it is, he pairs you with a registered therapist whose experience and approach fit your goals.
- We usually expect 6-12 sessions, depending on what you are working on. Your plan is based on what you want to change and the progress you are making, not a pre-set package.
- It is normal to feel skeptical, uncomfortable, or unsure what to say. You do not need to prepare. Your intake coordinator will guide the consult, and your therapist will help you choose a clear place to begin.
What to do next
Book your free consult
A free 30-minute consult gives you a clear next step. If The Brotherhood is the right fit, you can start this week.
Get matched with the right therapist
We match you with a registered therapist whose experience and approach fit what you want to change.
Use the work between sessions
Every CBT session includes practical homework. Your therapist reviews what happened next session and adjusts the plan.
CBT
DBT
ACT
MBCT
In his own words
In 2019, my relationship blew up when I found out my partner was cheating on me.
Truthfully, this hit me like a truck.
Rage. Shame. Grief. A crushing fear that I'd never trust anyone again. I had no idea what to do with any of it.
So, I did what most guys do. I bottled it up and numbed it out.
Gaming.
Weed.
Porn.
Alcohol.
Anything to escape.
But these were the things that had been messing up my relationship in the first place.
I needed real answers. A way to pull myself out of this mess for good.
So I searched - books, podcasts, therapy, anything that would help me get my shit together...
... and I kept coming up empty.
Nothing clicked. Nothing felt like a full solution.
On the brink of giving up, I looked in the one place I never wanted to go.
My own feelings.
Turns out, that's right where the solution was.
Better yet, I also accidentally found simple, step-by-step solutions that actually dealt with them!
For the first time, the constant anger and worries faded. The bad habits disappeared. And I finally could show up like a real man in my relationships.
I finally felt clear, confident, and in control.
Over the next few years, I mastered my emotions, created my dream relationship with my now-wife, and spend my days as a psychotherapist helping other men.
CBT
DBT
Motivational Interviewing
In his own words
Trauma. That dirty word that clings to so many.
Childhood experiences early in life left me scared, angry, and unable to process emotions in a healthy way.
The pain increased, and by the age of 16 I was dropped out of school and relying on escapism through video games, which escalated to alcohol and drug abuse.
... Loneliness,
Confusion,
Fear,
Hurt,
All ran my life.
Handfuls of medications left me numb, secluded, and sedentary. Unable to find energy to even get out of bed, weight gain of over 140 lbs followed.
Contemplation of suicide not only became a plan, but a goal.
One final attempt at finding myself followed, and I took the step to talk to a counsellor about my pain.
That single connection turned out to be life changing.
I was encouraged to connect with my emotions, my community, and myself again.
I'm now able to be the man, father, and partner that I want to be, and have the honour of working with other men to help them accomplish the same.
If you are looking for real change, book a free consult and I look forward to meeting you!
EMDR
ACT
CBT
EFT
MBSR
MBCT
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
In his own words
If anger, frustration, or emotional reactions are beginning to affect your relationships — you are not alone.
Maybe communication with your partner keeps breaking down. Maybe small things escalate quickly, you shut down emotionally, or afterward you are left regretting how things came out.
You care deeply about your relationships. But you still feel stuck in patterns you do not want to keep repeating.
This is work I care deeply about.
Over the course of my career, I've seen how unmanaged anger and emotional disconnection can slowly damage relationships, self-esteem, and overall well-being.
What often looks like "anger" on the outside can actually be something else entirely:
Loneliness.
Pressure.
Resentment.
Hurt.
Exhaustion.
Feeling unheard for far too long.
Many people carry this silently while trying to hold everything together.
My approach is not about blame or judgment. It's about helping you understand yourself, develop healthier ways of responding, and build stronger, more connected relationships.
Meaningful change is possible. And working on yourself can have a powerful impact — not only on your own life, but on the relationships that matter most to you.
CBT
EMDR
IFS
In his own words
Trauma wasn't something I learned about in a classroom.
It was something I witnessed.
Witnessing the war in Syria firsthand, I was exposed early to what fear, instability, and survival do to people - how it shapes the way you think, the way you react, and the way you relate to others.
And like many men, I learned how to adapt.
Stay composed.
Push things down.
Keep moving forward.
From the outside, it can look like strength.
But underneath, it's a different story.
Because what isn't processed doesn't disappear.
As Carl Jung put it:
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
I've seen that play out - in my own life, and in the lives of the men I've worked with.
Patterns repeating.
Reactions that don't make sense.
Relationships breaking down without fully understanding why.
That's what led me deeper into this work.
Not just to understand trauma - but to actually process it.
Through my training in counselling psychology, and approaches like EMDR and parts-based therapy, I learned how to work with what's underneath the surface - where these patterns actually live.
Now, I help other men do the same.
My work focuses on trauma, emotional regulation, and relationships - helping you understand what's driving your behaviors so you can take back control in a real, lasting way.
Because real change doesn't come from pushing things down.
It comes from facing them - and understanding what's been running in the background all along.
CBT
ACT
EFT
CFT
SFBT
In his own words
For over 20 years, I looked successful on paper.
Senior management roles in Banking & Telecom. Big projects, big teams, a career that ticked every box.
And underneath it? A quiet, persistent question I kept pushing down.
Is this actually it?
I was good at my job. Responsible, capable, successful. Outwardly, I had things figured out.
But the disconnect kept growing.
No crisis. Just a slow, building awareness that the life I'd built wasn't quite the life I wanted.
The kind of feeling men are really good at ignoring.
So I ignored it.
Until a serious health scare made that impossible.
Suddenly, I got very clear, very fast, about how I'd been living.
The career that paid well but never felt aligned. The deeper questions I kept deferring. The version of myself I hadn't yet stepped into.
When you're forced to confront your own mortality, those things stop feeling abstract.
When I recovered, I didn't go back to the same life. I got more intentional about all of it. How I was showing up as a husband and a father, what I actually wanted my work to mean, who I wanted to be.
I stepped away from my corporate career, went back to school, and became a psychotherapist.
Not because I had to, but because for the first time, I made an honest choice about who I actually wanted to be.
Now I work with men navigating that same territory.
The high-functioning professional carrying burnout he can't justify. The one whose relationship is under quiet pressure and he doesn't know how to “fix it.” The man at a crossroads looking at his career, identity, purpose and asking what comes next.