Jordan Kilpatrick
Clinical Director · RPHelps men understand what drives their reactions and build steadier ways to respond.
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DBT therapy for men in Ontario
DBT therapy for when emotions take over.
Practical DBT skills for regulation, distress tolerance, communication, and staying steady under pressure.
Book a Free DBT ConsultNo waitlist · No referral needed · Ontario therapists
The snap. The shutdown. The spiral.
The urge you know will cost you. DBT helps you catch it sooner.
What brings men here
You can explain the pattern after it happens.
But in the moment, your body is already flooded.
You need a pause you can practise, not advice you forget.
DBT turns that pause into a skillset.
DBT therapy is built for the gap between insight and action.
The work is learning emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and relationship skills - then practising them where they actually matter.
Why DBT helps
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DBT is practice for the moment things usually go sideways.
Because the point is not just to understand why you react the way you do.
It is to have something usable when your body is flooded, your thoughts are racing, or a conversation is starting to go sideways.
DBT therapy gives you a clearer way to pause, regulate, tolerate distress, ask for what you need, and repair what matters. You leave with skills to practise, not just things to think about.
Jordan Kilpatrick, Clinical Director & Registered Psychotherapist
The team
Therapists who make DBT
Therapists who make DBT
practical.
Our therapists work with men who want DBT to become usable in the moments where things usually fall apart.
Aaron Lorenz
Registered Social WorkerHelps men build emotional awareness, values-based action, and steadier choices under stress.
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Andrew Garnet
RSW · MSWHelps men work with anger, conflict, and stress before those patterns take over.
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Mo Shabib
RP (Qualifying)Helps men turn insight into practical steps for relationships, emotions, and daily life.
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Your first call is with Joe.
Joe will ask what has been going on, answer your DBT questions, and help you figure out whether Brotherhood is the right fit. No pitch. No pressure.
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How it works
Three steps.
Three steps.
No pressure.
Free DBT consult
A 30-minute call with Joe. You tell us what has been happening, what you want to change, and what kind of DBT support you are looking for.
Matched with the right therapist
Based on what you are looking for, you are connected with a therapist whose training, style, and experience fit your goals.
DBT sessions with skills to practise
Your therapist helps you build DBT skills for regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and communication. You practise between sessions, check what worked, and keep refining the plan.
Common questions
FAQs about DBT therapy.
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Sessions are $185/hour. Many extended health plans in Ontario cover sessions with registered psychotherapists or registered social workers, but the amount depends on your plan. Check under "psychotherapy" or "social work" in your benefits booklet, or call your provider directly.
We also offer direct billing for social work coverage. If direct billing matters to you, ask during your free consult and we can discuss matching you with one of our team members who can provide it. Direct billing depends on your plan and can only be confirmed when we try billing it. If direct billing is not available through your plan, you can still pay for your session and submit a receipt to your insurer for reimbursement. That is usually quick and easy. - 100% online. Most men find this easier because the work is private, practical, and easier to fit into real life. You can do a session from your car, home, or office - anywhere you have an hour and a door that closes.
- Yes. We offer DBT therapy focused on emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, and practical skills between sessions. If you are looking for a comprehensive DBT program with group skills training or phone coaching, ask during your free consult. If we are not the right fit, we will tell you and point you in the right direction.
- A 30-minute call with Joe. He will ask what has been going on, what you are hoping will change, and whether DBT therapy seems like a good fit to explore. He will not create the treatment plan for you. He can help match you with the right therapist, and your therapist will build the plan with you once you begin.
- No. DBT was originally developed for intense emotional dysregulation, but DBT skills can help many people who struggle with big emotions, impulsive reactions, conflict, shutdown, stress, or relationship patterns they want to change.
- Yes, DBT skills can be useful when anger, defensiveness, shutdown, or panic take over faster than you can think. The goal is not to become emotionless. The goal is to notice what is happening sooner and choose a response you respect afterward.
$185/hr
Covered by most
insurance plans
No waitlist
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30 minutes,
no obligation
Start with one practical next step.
In 30 minutes with Joe, you can ask about DBT therapy, talk through what has been happening, and get a clearer sense of whether Brotherhood is the right fit.
Free 30-minute call · DBT therapy · Ontario-licensed therapists
In his own words
In 2019, my relationship blew up when I found out my partner was cheating on me.
Truthfully, this hit me like a truck.
Rage. Shame. Grief. A crushing fear that I'd never trust anyone again. I had no idea what to do with any of it.
So, I did what most guys do. I bottled it up and numbed it out.
Gaming.
Weed.
Porn.
Alcohol.
Anything to escape.
But these were the things had been messing up my relationship in the first place.
I needed real answers. A way to pull myself out of this mess for good.
So I searched - books, podcasts, therapy, anything that would help me get my shit together...
... and I kept coming up empty.
Nothing clicked. Nothing felt like a full solution.
On the brink of giving up, I looked in the one place I never wanted to go.
My own feelings.
Turns out, that's right where the solution was.
Better yet, I also accidentally found simple, step-by-step solutions that actually dealt with them!
For the first time, the constant anger and worries faded. The bad habits disappeared. And I finally could show up like a real man in my relationships.
I finally felt clear, confident, and in control.
Over the next few years, I mastered my emotions, created my dream relationship with my now-wife, and spend my days as a psychotherapist helping other men.
I love getting to share what I've learned with other men and watch them completely transform their lives too.
If you're looking for change, click the button to apply, and let's help you become the man you know you can be.
In his own words
Trauma. That dirty word that clings to so many.
Childhood experiences early in life left me scared, angry, and unable to process emotions in a healthy way.
The pain increased, and by the age of 16 I was dropped out of school and relying on escapism through video games, which escalated to alcohol and drug abuse.
... Loneliness,
Confusion,
Fear,
Hurt,
All ran my life.
Handfuls of medications left me numb, secluded, and sedentary. Unable to find energy to even get out of bed, weight gain of over 140 lbs followed.
Contemplation of suicide not only became a plan, but a goal.
One final attempt at finding myself followed, and I took the step to talk to a counsellor about my pain.
That single connection turned out to be life changing.
I was encouraged to connect with my emotions, my community, and myself again.
I'm now able to be the man, father, and partner that I want to be, and have the honour of working with other men to help them accomplish the same.
If you are looking for real change, fill out the application form and I look forward to meeting you!
In his own words
If anger, frustration, or emotional reactions are beginning to affect your relationships — you are not alone.
Maybe communication with your partner keeps breaking down. Maybe small things escalate quickly, you shut down emotionally, or afterward you are left regretting how things came out.
You care deeply about your relationships. But you still feel stuck in patterns you do not want to keep repeating.
This is work I care deeply about.
Over the course of my career, I've seen how unmanaged anger and emotional disconnection can slowly damage relationships, self-esteem, and overall well-being.
What often looks like "anger" on the outside can actually be something else entirely:
Loneliness.
Pressure.
Resentment.
Hurt.
Exhaustion.
Feeling unheard for far too long.
Many people carry this silently while trying to hold everything together.
My approach is not about blame or judgment. It's about helping you understand yourself, develop healthier ways of responding, and build stronger, more connected relationships.
Meaningful change is possible. And working on yourself can have a powerful impact — not only on your own life, but on the relationships that matter most to you.
In his own words
Trauma wasn't something I learned about in a classroom.
It was something I witnessed.
Witnessing the war in Syria firsthand, I was exposed early to what fear, instability, and survival do to people - how it shapes the way you think, the way you react, and the way you relate to others.
And like many men, I learned how to adapt.
Stay composed.
Push things down.
Keep moving forward.
From the outside, it can look like strength.
But underneath, it's a different story.
Because what isn't processed doesn't disappear.
As Carl Jung put it:
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
I've seen that play out - in my own life, and in the lives of the men I've worked with.
Patterns repeating.
Reactions that don't make sense.
Relationships breaking down without fully understanding why.
That's what led me deeper into this work.
Not just to understand trauma - but to actually process it.
Through my training in counselling psychology, and approaches like EMDR and parts-based therapy, I learned how to work with what's underneath the surface - where these patterns actually live.
Now, I help other men do the same.
My work focuses on trauma, emotional regulation, and relationships - helping you understand what's driving your behaviors so you can take back control in a real, lasting way.
Because real change doesn't come from pushing things down.
It comes from facing them - and understanding what's been running in the background all along.